Tag Archives: High Sensitivity

Why I’m angry (and what I’m doing about it)

I often feel incredibly peaceful … yet sometimes I feel unsettlingly angry. 

And I’ve been reflecting on these feelings, the sense of disconnection that so many people feel in so many ways (which I’ve certainly felt myself), and also I’ve been thinking about  why I do what I do as a teacher and writer. Here’s the result of my reflections. I hope this inspires you…

My ‘why’

Stella Tomlinson meditation and yoga: living in rhythm

After much soul-searching I’ve come to realize that my soul’s calling is to guide and inspire sensitive, soulful people like you and me to connect to inner peace by learning to live in rhythm with the flow of life, in alignment with our needs as high sensitives.

Why?

Because I’ve come to believe (and feel in my bones) that the epidemic of stress, anxiety and depression in Western cultures – which I have experienced myself – is due to a profound sense of disconnection.

Disconnection from our bodies; disconnection from the natural rhythms, energies and ebbs and flows of circadian rhythms, the menstrual cycle, the lunar cycle and the cycles and seasons of the year.

Disconnection from the joy of simple, sustainable living in accordance with nature.

Disconnection from our heart and soul – firmly lodging us in our head and our fretful mind, at the mercy of our over-stimulated nervous system.

All this disconnection is a path to burnout and ill health … via stress, anxiety and depression.

Do you feel it too? Read more…

High sensitivity is a gift not a disorder

Highly Sensitive - sensing the subtle
HSPs: we can sense the subtle

Here are a few phrases which make my heart break a little when I hear them said about the trait of high sensitivity:

“I was diagnosed as highly sensitive a few months ago.”

“Yes, I have the condition too.”

“I try to manage my high sensitivity.”

I feel like crying out “no, NO, NOOOOO!!!!” whenever I hear words like this. And then enveloping the speaker in a big hug.

Why? Because it’s a sign that the person has internalized the idea that being “sensitive” means there’s something wrong with them.

And there’s not.

There really isn’t. Read more…

Sensitive to seasonal changes? Try this

Fellow highly sensitives… you might well be feeling a bit odd and off-kilter this week – what with the change in season and the full moon yesterday!

I know that, as much as I love it, in early autumn I can feel a bit discombobulated – happy and joyful one minute, bone-tired the next…

If you’re feeling it too then, like me, you’ll benefit from daily GROUNDING – to feel rooted, safe and still.

Try this – it only takes a few minutes. Read more…

Sensitive Manifesto for Living Life Well

Sensitive and proudI’m on a mission. To raise awareness of the trait of high sensitivity. To empower and inspire highly sensitive people.

15-20% of the population has a nervous system which is more finely tuned to the environment & stimuli. Amongst other things we tend to be very aware of the subtleties in the environment; we pick up on other people’s moods; we need quiet-time on very busy days.

There’s nothing wrong with HSPs. It’s not a syndrome or a condition to be cured or managed.

The way I see it, some people have brown hair others blond. Some people have blue eyes, others brown. Some people have a highly sensitive nervous system, others don’t.

But because we live in a noisy, over-stimulating world we HSPs often feel anxious and stressed and overwhelmed because our nervous system reaches saturation point long before non-HSPs.

So I’m on a mission to help HSPs take care of themselves in order to thrive. Read more…

My Sensitive Life

Yoga & Meditation teacher Stella, looking to the lightI’m Stella. I don’t usually like labels, but I fully claim this one: I’m a highly sensitive introvert.

I love quiet. I l need time alone.  The noisy, busy world drains me.

I notice the details of what’s around me.

I pick up on other people’s moods and energy and vibes – and oftentimes to such an extent that they change my mood.

I love to listen to the birds, and to gaze at the clouds floating across the sky.

My heart fills to bursting when I see a beautiful sunset or sunrise.

I can stare at flowers for ages.

My exercise of choice is slow, graceful, gentle yoga. And I love it because yoga offers a philosophy for living and a spiritual practice to connect to my soul wisdom and a sense of the ineffable.

I love to meditate (even though my crazy busy mind likes to pretend otherwise!).

Above all I appreciate all things that bring me inner peace, stillness and joy. Read more…

Yes, I AM highly sensitive. Are you too?

Highly Sensitive Meditation teacher Stella in a cornfieldI’m a highly sensitive person.

I love peace and quiet. I love to sit and think and feel and day dream.

I’m easily over-whelmed my noise and bright lights and being around a lot of people I don’t know so I tend to avoid large gatherings or come across as quiet and reserved when I’m in them.

I also have a very busy mind which notices all that’s going on around me and is aware of the permutations of a course of action even before I take the first step! And I have a vivid imagination.

I need my time alone each day – and if I don’t get it I wind up anxious, drained and utterly exhausted.

So, what’s wrong with me? …Absolutely nothing!

I am sensitive.

This craving for quiet is an innate characteristic. It’s about how my nervous system works.

About 15-20% of the population have a nervous system which is more sensitive to their surroundings and stimuli.

I’m what’s termed a highly sensitive person. Read more…