Open to joy

Sun Shining with joy - Yoga in Southampton and EastleighHarness the power of your mind to feel more positive, present and peaceful with this affirmation to breathe in joy:

“I am filled with abundant life and energy”

Close your eyes and imagine golden sunlight, vitality and Prana (life force) flowing over you and through the crown of your head into every cell of your body.

Feel the warmth … See each organ, muscle, bone & sinew, and each cell within you glowing with life and energy and a sense of joy.

If you’re not feeling too well, imagine this energy bringing healing to your body and mind.

Repeat out loud, or silently: I am filled with abundant life and energy.

Breathe deeply – breathe in life and energy, breathe out toxins and tension.

Choose to feel alive and vibrant and joyful!

…Because it is a choice. Read more…

3 mindful steps to relieve anxiety & stress

A mindful life: channel peace with yoga, mindfulness and meditationBusy mind. Tired body. Feeling unfocused and sometimes overwhelmed. Sound familiar? Approach life in a mindful way to be here now and feel more at peace.

Our busy lifestyles and overstimulating environment mean that we’re always on the go and there’s always something to do – there’s precious little time just to slow down and be.

There’s a saying often used in yoga: Where your attention goes your energy flows.

If your attention is flitting around all over the place between past, present & future; getting lost in the past; fretting about the future; or judging and wanting to change what’s going on now,  then your energy is going to feel diffuse and scattered – no wonder you’re tired and feeling confused!

But you don’t have to feel lost and out of control. There is something you can always do to help yourself. To reconnect back to yourself. To self-soothe. To come back from the brink.

I know because I’ve experienced all of these myself. The tension, overwhelm, exhaustion and whizzing mind.

They still sometimes creep up on me, but now I know what to do to stop them in their tracks and recover my equilibrium.

I take these 3 simple but powerful steps. Give them a try and see how they work for you. Read more…

4 steps to less stress and more peace

Steps to less stress and more peaceDo you ever feel at the mercy of the stress-filled myriad of thoughts rushing through your mind?

There’s so much stuff rambling around your brain it tires you out! You can’t seem to find an off-switch – but desperately wish you could…

You’d love to feel more peaceful, more positive and more present in your life, so you can enjoy simple pleasures and time with family and friends without that constant feeling of fretting and foreboding which all too easily overshadows your daily life.

Yes? Well, all these things I’ve mentioned above have been my experience too – you’re not alone! The vast majority of my yoga & meditation students come to me because they want to quieten their busy minds.

And if, like me, you’re highly sensitive, then you feel it all more intensely and your inner landscape can often feel unsafe and overwhelming. Read more…

Life in the slow lane: why I’m standing up for slowness!

Stella Tomlinson Yoga and meditation Southampton, Hampshire“Oh she’s got so much energy!” “Ooh I don’t know how she does it all!” “Gosh, I wish I had her energy!”

How many times have you said that or heard that and felt a pang of envy or a kick of inadequacy in comparison?

I know I have.

Some people seem to pack their lives full of activities and achievements. They have a hundred plates spinning at any given time. They are popular and always smiling. Their home is immaculate.

“Oh crap, I wish I was like that… Why do I feel like I need a nap some afternoons? Am I wasting time watching the birds or pootling in the garden or curling up to read?”

It’s all too easy to let that thought into your mind and it festers and you get stuck in comparisonitis.

I’ve been there – can easily still go there.

But then I take a moment to reflect.

Why do we glorify being busy?

Why is appearing to have so much energy and be doing all the things something we envy?

I have a different perspective on this I’d like to share… Read more…

Look within

Meditation in Hampshire: meditate to look within for peaceWhere do you look for wisdom and solace and guidance?

These wise words can give us a hint as to the best place to look:

“Who looks outside dreams. Who looks inside awakens” ~ Carl Jung

Everything in our culture encourages us to look outside ourselves for answers and validation.

It starts at school and as we grow up and throughout adulthood we’re conditioned to look to “experts” to tell us what’s going on inside ourselves; we’re told to buy buy buy all sorts of stuff to make ourselves feel happy; we’re taught that material possessions and career advancement are indicators of our worth. Read more…

What’s your true nature?

Meditation teacher Stella crown of light 400pxI thought these words timely for the start of a new calendar year – especially with so many marketing messages screaming “New Year, New You” at you!

“The aim of life is self-development. To realise one’s nature perfectly – that is what each of us is here for” ~ Oscar Wilde

I agree, that the aim of life is self-development.

But it’s not about fixing you because you’re broken.

The old you from last year is perfectly fine.

For me, this speaks to what is at the heart of the yogic approach to ourselves. Read more…

New Year Meditation: use the power of your intention

Power of intentionHappy New Year!  I hope that you and yours had a good Christmas and New Year.

If it was in any way tinged with stress or sadness or frustration then I send you much love … and hope and joy for the new year ahead.

So, to mark this transition from the old year into the new I have created this guided meditation focusing on the power of intention.

I’ll guide you through releasing the old year, opening to the new, and help you choose a word for the year to act as your focus and guide to create the life you’d love – with intention.

Never under-estimate the power of focusing your mind and intention.

“If you don’t know what you want, you end up with a lot you don’t” ~ Chuck Palahniuk

SO true. Read more…

Listen to your heart

Rose Quartz HeartWhich rules within you? Your head or your heart? 

It’s a tricky one.

Do we make choices based on logic, analysis and perceived knowledge, or make them based on inner guidance which often arises as a strong feeling in the body – and may defy logic?

I used to just live in my head, but it was a fretful space to occupy … so now I make it my daily spiritual practice to tune into my heart, because:

“Your heart knows the way. Run in that direction” ~ Rumi

These words really go to the heart of why I teach and share what I do!

When you settle the body and quieten your mind you will find that you begin to hear a quiet voice whispering to you – the voice of inner wisdom.

Whether you feel its your heart, your soul, your intuition or the voice of god/dess talking to you – we *all* have access to this inner guidance. Read more…

Stress and the Body: the importance of attachment

Brain networks: the stress connection in health and disease{Guest post by Patricia Worby, PhD, Trauma Therapist who is teaching The Stress Connection in Health and Disease event with me on 17 March 2018.}

Humans are creatures of attachment. It overrides even the desire for life. This is biologically important so that we can be taken care of.

A human child especially is vulnerable to loss of attachment because they are born almost entirely helpless and need attachment to survive; our brains are very immature.

The quality of that attachment is significant for further brain development outside the womb and is something that actually changes the brain of the child when it is withheld; a developmental stage is often not completed properly, with the emotional brain (limbic system in the centre of the brain) failing to develop with a sense of safety at its core.
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