Why oh why does our culture glorify busy-ness so much? We’re supposed to struggle, to push through our comfort zones, to do, to achieve, to climb the ladder. Blah, blah, blimmin’ blah. Whatevs. We’re not meant to want to relax in calm contentment.
Well do you know what? I can’t be bothered. It all sounds way too overwhelming and tiring for me, sensitive soul that I am.
I’m not lazy. I work hard – and yes, I find myself pushing too (and wind up exhausted when I do).
So I’m standing up for slowness. For gentleness. For kindness. For sensitivity. For time to relax and notice the simple pleasures in life. Read more…
Finally. You have 30 minutes with nothing scheduled. Some precious me-time alone. Time where you can just do what YOU like. Ah lovely…
But then, you remember the bins need putting out. Ah, you forgot to answer that email. Hmm, you haven’t spoken to such-and-such for a while may you should give them a ring.
And you start to feel guilty for not getting on with stuff which “needs” doing.
Feeling guilty. It usually comes with an unhelpful dose of “shoulds” and “shouldn’ts”. That nagging feeling you should be doing something else instead. The knot in the stomach. The tension in the head and shoulders. The chattering thoughts.
The guilt comes with an extra whack when we’re doing something just for ourselves. Some aspect of self care that we know we desperately need but we somehow find difficult to allow ourselves to have. Quite time away from the kids and family. Time to go for a walk and get some fresh air at lunchtime to get out of the office and away from the ever-refilling email inbox. Saying a gentle but firm “no” to looking after the grandkids at short notice when you had some me-time planned.
And we either cave into the guilt and prioritise others’ needs or the guilt consumes us and we don’t enjoy what we’re doing.
I’m doing some research into OVERWHELM – can you help me?
Is this you?
You can find it difficult to relax and unwind.
Sometimes you feel tired and wiped out sometimes anxious and wired.
Your mind is busy, busy.
You’re sensitive to what’s happening around you such as loud noises, bright lights, strong smells, busy places; you notice the subtleties in your environment; and you pick up on other people’s moods and emotions.
You also enjoy a rich and complex inner life.
You identify with sometimes or often feeling overwhelmed.
If this is you, then I’d love you to take part in my survey.
(It’s open until Friday 8 April 2016).
It’ll be so helpful for me in my work as a yoga teacher and will help me to develop my services to serve wonderful people like you in the best way possible.
Anxiety. Those worried thoughts; the general feeling of unease; the feeling that your nerves are on edge. Apprehension. Agitation.
Do you feel it? I know I am prone to it.
Now, I have a hunch that those of us who tend to experience anxiety are highly sensitive.
Anxiety is our nervous system’s response to the excess of external stimuli in our environment: our fight / flight / freeze response keeps getting revved by the information overload of our busy lives and pushy culture and we wind up feeling anxious.
So the good news is, there’s nothing wrong with you. I am PASSIONATE about this. If you experience anxiety you don’t need to be medicated. You don’t have to beat yourself up. You don’t have to tell yourself – or listen to others telling you – there’s something wrong with you.
Explore the fact that you might simply be sensitive. Read more…
Ah, Christmas, lovely Christmas. Full of joy, full of sparkle, full of giving.
Full of panicked shoppers, full of to-do lists a mile long, full of demands on your time, full of making polite conversation at parties and socials with colleagues and semi-acquaintances and relatives you haven’t seen all year… Read more…
So, I’ve been rather confused about yoga and my place in the world as a yoga teacher of late.
Increasingly, yoga seems to be about challenging poses, contortions, arm balances, headstands and pushing through your fears – at least that’s how it’s represented and how many teachers teach it.
But to me, practising yoga has always been about “stilling the thought waves of the mind” (as Patanjali, the sage behind the ancient Yoga Sutras states). A practice of becoming aware and alive to the subtleties of my body, emotions and mind and to connect to my inner self and inner peace. Read more…
The to-do list is too long. The emails keep coming. That oh so 21st century phenomenon of FOMO (fear of missing out) is gnawing at your soul.
There’s so much going on in your life that you’re not getting chance to give yourself that precious quiet, me-time that you know in your bones that you need to keep functioning, let along enjoy life!
I know how you feel. Putting pressure on yourself to do everything and do it perfectly and do it now. To read every interesting book, follow up every interesting article on social media, to just be Ms Perfect.
And I know where it leads. To overwhelm. To a feeling of nervous-system overload and exhaustion. To a mind which can’t focus, a digestive system which can’t digest, and a body which can’t rest. Read more…