Tag Archives: sensitive

Soul food: Be tender, be strong

There is nothing stronger in the world than tendernessSoul food:

“There is nothing stronger in the world than tenderness” ~ Han Suyin

Tenderness, sensitivity, kindliness, gentleness. It’s not particularly prized by our society. It’s seen as weak.

But I believe allowing yourself to feel – to be kind, gentle and sensitive – is *incredibly* strong.

Being tender is about letting the feelings in and letting them be known to you and sitting with them or letting them through. Read more…

Yoga for uncertain times

Stormy weather ahead
Stormy weather ahead!

One word, one date. Brexit, 24 June 2016. And a whole world of fear, anger, frustration, and incomprehension opens (…insert your feelings here!).

I’m still feeling shock, anger and fear from the UK EU Referendum result and the follow-on effects of the disarray at Westminster – the back-biting, back-stabbing and vacuum of power.

And I can tangibly sense the disbelief, worry, confusion, rage and fear that has spread through the UK (and beyond).

We’re living in uncertain times – wherever you are in the world. Read more…

Four steps to let go of guilt and let yourself relax

guiltyFinally. You have 30 minutes with nothing scheduled.  Some precious me-time alone. Time where you can just do what YOU like. Ah lovely…

But then, you remember the bins need putting out. Ah, you forgot to answer that email. Hmm, you haven’t spoken to such-and-such for a while may you should give them a ring.

And you start to feel guilty for not getting on with stuff which “needs” doing.

Guilt strikes

Feeling guilty. It usually comes with an unhelpful dose of “shoulds” and “shouldn’ts”. That nagging feeling you should be doing something else instead. The knot in the stomach. The tension in the head and shoulders. The chattering thoughts.

The guilt comes with an extra whack when we’re doing something just for ourselves. Some aspect of self care that we know we desperately need but we somehow find difficult to allow ourselves to have. Quite time away from the kids and family.  Time to go for a walk and get some fresh air at lunchtime to get out of the office and  away from the ever-refilling email inbox. Saying a gentle but firm “no” to looking after the grandkids at short notice when you had some me-time planned.

And we either cave into the guilt and prioritise others’ needs or the guilt consumes us and we don’t enjoy what we’re doing.

Sound familiar? Read more…

Do YOU have time to stand and stare?

Flowers, trees and sky - some of my favourite things
Some of my favourite things – pics I recently took at Mottisfont

Do you remember when you were little and you’d spend, what felt like hours, lying on the grass and staring at the sky?

Watching the clouds form and change and pass? Watching, with fascination, the colours behind your closed eye lids as the sun shone on your face?

Ah, those innocent pleasures of childhood.  And the time to enjoy them without question or guilt.

How often do you allow yourself time just to stand and stare now? Read more…

Can you help me with my research into overwhelm?

I’m doing some research into OVERWHELM – can you help me?

Is this you?

  • You can find it difficult to relax and unwind.
  • Sometimes you feel tired and wiped out sometimes anxious and wired.
  • Your mind is busy, busy.
  • You’re sensitive to what’s happening around you such as loud noises, bright lights, strong smells, busy places; you notice the subtleties in your environment; and you pick up on other people’s moods and emotions.
  • You also enjoy a rich and complex inner life.
  • You identify with sometimes or often feeling overwhelmed.

If this is you, then I’d love you to take part in my survey.
(It’s open until Friday 8 April 2016).

It’ll be so helpful for me in my work as a yoga teacher and will help me to develop my services to serve wonderful people like you in the best way possible.

Click here to take the survey

The survey consists of 6 main questions, takes 5-10 minutes to complete and is totally anonymous.

As a big thank you from me, on completion of the survey, you’ll receive my Earth Focus Meditation to help you feel still, safe and supported.

Thank you,
Stella xx

Yoga Antidotes to Anxiety

Tree hugging in Bath
Trees calm me down!

Anxiety. Those worried thoughts; the general feeling of unease; the feeling that your nerves are on edge. Apprehension. Agitation.

Do you feel it? I know I am prone to it.

Now, I have a hunch that those of us who tend to experience anxiety are highly sensitive.

Anxiety is our nervous system’s response to the excess of external stimuli in our environment: our fight / flight / freeze response keeps getting revved by the information overload of our busy lives and pushy culture and we wind up feeling anxious.

So the good news is, there’s nothing wrong with you. I am PASSIONATE about this. If you experience anxiety you don’t need to be medicated. You don’t have to beat yourself up. You don’t have to tell yourself – or listen to others telling you – there’s something wrong with you.

Explore the fact that you might simply be sensitive. Read more…

Overcome Christmas Overwhelm

Christmas time - keep calm with relaxing yoga in Southampton and Eastleigh
Keep calm and carry on with Christmas

It’s Christmas!!! Yay? Or …Nay?

Ah, Christmas, lovely Christmas. Full of joy, full of sparkle, full of giving.

Full of panicked shoppers, full of to-do lists a mile long, full of demands on your time, full of making polite conversation at parties and socials with colleagues and semi-acquaintances and relatives you haven’t seen all year… Read more…

Yoga: what’s the point?

The Yoga Path: Mindful yoga in Southampton and Eastleigh
The yoga path: often challenging but always rewarding

So, I’ve been rather confused about yoga and my place in the world as a yoga teacher of late.

Increasingly, yoga seems to be about challenging poses, contortions, arm balances, headstands and pushing through your fears – at least that’s how it’s represented and how many teachers teach it.

But to me, practising yoga has always been about “stilling the thought waves of the mind”  (as Patanjali, the sage behind the ancient Yoga Sutras states).  A practice of becoming aware and alive to the subtleties of my body, emotions and mind and to connect to my inner self and inner peace. Read more…

3 ways to nurture yourself when you’re feeling overwhelmed

Seedlings: nourish yourself with mindfulness yoga class in Southampton and yoga classes in Eastleigh
Nourish yourself through overwhelm with yoga, relaxation and meditation

The to-do list is too long. The emails keep coming. That oh so 21st century phenomenon of FOMO (fear of missing out) is gnawing at your soul.

There’s so much going on in your life that you’re not getting chance to give yourself that precious quiet, me-time that you know in your bones that you need to keep functioning, let along enjoy life!

I know how you feel. Putting pressure on yourself to do everything and do it perfectly and do it now.  To read every interesting book, follow up every interesting article on social media, to just be Ms Perfect.

And I know where it leads. To overwhelm. To a feeling of nervous-system  overload and exhaustion. To a mind which can’t focus, a digestive system which can’t digest, and a body which can’t rest. Read more…

What to do when your anxious mind overwhelms you

Ground yourself with mindful yoga in southampton and yoga in eastleigh
Imagine you have the roots of these beautiful old trees at Avebury: you are grounded and secure.

Your mind is whirring. Jumping from this place to that. You’re finding it difficult to focus.

Your jaw is tense. Your shoulders are up around your ears. There’s a feeling of contraction and tightness throughout your body. You’re barely breathing.

You’ve got that familiar feeling of not being quite able to put your finger on what’s wrong. An uncomfortable feeling you’re forgetting something; that you’re missing out on something; that something bad is going to happen; that you’re just not going to be able to get everything done that you need to.

Anxiety is with you again.

I know how it feels.
Read more…