Tag Archives: connection

Are you living your life in alignment?

Train tracks
Does something not quite seem aligned?

Do you ever get the sense there’s something out of kilter? That something doesn’t quite feel right?

Maybe you know what it is. Perhaps you can’t quite put your finger on it but it’s a niggly sense that something needs to change.

A strange but very real sense that something isn’t quite aligned properly.

What’s going on? Read more…

The mindful way through stress and anxiety

Choppy waters - let mindfulness calm you
The waves of life can crash against us

When your head is full of thoughts. When you’re worried or scared. When you’re tired and just can’t be bothered any more. When you’re tense. When you’re in pain. When you’re so overwhelmed that you think you’re just going to go into melt-down. When burnout feels around the corner.

It can feel impossible to know what to do.

But there is something you can always do to help yourself. To reconnect back to yourself. To self-soothe.  To come back from the brink.

I know because I’ve experienced all of these myself.  The tension, overwhelm, exhaustion and whizzing mind.

They still sometimes creep up on me, but now I know what to do to stop them in their tracks and recover my equilibrium.

I take these 3 simple but powerful steps. Give them a try and see how they work for you. Read more…

Are you ready to rise?

Rise like a snowdrop showing the first signs of spring.
Mother earth is stirring

Early February. How does it feel to you?

Have you noticed the slightly longer daylight hours and a subtle but perceptible strengthening of the sun’s rays? Can you feel the sap rising?

2nd February (as well as being my birthday!) was the festival of Imbolc – in the ancient Celtic Wheel of the Year this marked the first day of spring.

A shift from the dark, cold, introspective energy of winter to the start of the growing season of spring.

A time to look outward and look forward.

This time of year is a perfect time to get outside and notice signs of the rising sap, the first shoots of spring and the lengthening daylight hours.

Nature is stirring. Read more…

Self-Care for Sensitives

Sweet Pea - sensitive tend to appreciate the delicate, intricate beauty of things
Are you sensitive to the delicate, intricate beauty of your natural surroundings?

When you’re sensitive to your surroundings and other people and you feel easily overwhelmed by too much stimulation and information, life can feel both challenging yet also soulfully rewarding.

Tiredness, overwhelm and feeling scattered and discombobulated may be feelings you know all too well. You crave withdrawal from this frantic world.

You’re also conscientious, observant, intuitive and empathetic to others’ feelings. You think about things deeply, you deeply feel the beauty of our natural surroundings and can easily be profoundly moved by music, art and acts of kindness.

You’re tuned into life around you. You have a delicate appreciation of the subtleties of life.

You may feel anxious, kind, connected, different from everyone else, aware, soulful, confused…

In short, you experience life intensely and sometimes it feels like a blessing and other times like a curse.

I know all this because this is how I experience the world. And if, like me, you’re Highly Sensitive (and if you’re not sure then take this short test) then you’ve probably felt all of these feelings, and more. Read more…

Gratitude to lift your mood

Grey skyDecember. Full of joy and sparkling lights. Full of cold bugs, coldness and darkness. Every coin has two sides eh?

How are you feeling?

Me, I work up earlier than usual this morning. It was still completely dark. I wasn’t feeling full of joy, to put it mildly (more to do with being day 26 of my cycle than anything else: I know from charting my monthly cycle all through this year that days 25/6 are often the days my inner critic gets LOUD).

But I still took myself to my meditation cushion and sat and allowed whatever was coming up, to come up. It wasn’t particularly pretty. But, with mindful awareness I offered kindness towards myself and to what I was feeling.

I began my usual practice – focusing on the cool-in breath at the nostrils and the warmer out-breath. I gradually took my awareness down through my body to ground.

Feeling grumpy, I continued to breathe. Read more…

Get out of your head and into your body

Girl floating attached to a balloon
Occupying our mind we can often feel ungrounded

Where are you living? No, I don’t mean which town, or whether you’re in a house or apartment.

I mean, what space do you occupy? Do you live in your mind or do you inhabit your body?

It’s a good question to ask yourself because in our busy lives it can be all too easy just to occupy the top two inches of our body and live in the mind.

And when we live in our minds we’re rarely present. We over-analyse the past and fret about the future. We’re at the mercy of the to-do list in our heads. We lose perspective. We might fly off the handle at the merest provocation. We daydream, disappearing into our thoughts.

Occupying the mental plane of existence disconnects us from our body. Our breath becomes shallow and our muscles get tense and tight. We ignore our body’s needs to or even stop noticing them at all. Read more…

Step on the path to peace with meditation

Zen frog: learn to meditate in Eastleigh, HampshireHead space. Clarity. Connection. Me-time away from the busy world (both real and online).

Tapping into a deep well of inner peace, content, strength and joy that is always there within me. Connecting to and awakening the radiant soul within me.

These are some of the reasons I meditate daily.

Sound inviting?  Would you like some peace, clarity and calm in your life too?

Then it’s time to learn to meditate. Read more…

Soul food: Be tender, be strong

There is nothing stronger in the world than tendernessSoul food:

“There is nothing stronger in the world than tenderness” ~ Han Suyin

Tenderness, sensitivity, kindliness, gentleness. It’s not particularly prized by our society. It’s seen as weak.

But I believe allowing yourself to feel – to be kind, gentle and sensitive – is *incredibly* strong.

Being tender is about letting the feelings in and letting them be known to you and sitting with them or letting them through. Read more…

Life lessons from meditation

Stella Tomlinson Meditation and Yoga Teacher Southampton and Eastleigh
Each and every day you can make this choice: listen to your monkey mind or listen to your inner wisdom

Do you sometimes not try something because you’ve already told yourself you can’t do it?

“I can’t relax because I’m too tense”, “I can’t stand up in front of a group to speak because I’m not confident enough”, “I can’t join a yoga class because everyone will think I’m bad at it” “I can’t meditate because my mind’s too busy”.

Yes, my mind does that too!

And it happened again last Saturday at my Dru Meditation Teacher Training. Read more…

Choose gratitude and joy this January

Fireworks
Happy 2016!

Happy New Year! The year has turned again and here you are at the start of 2016.

Are you feeling the calling to turn a new leaf? To make resolutions? To stop doing this; to change that; to be more this; to do less of the other?

It’s natural to feel this at the start of a year.

However, most New Year’s resolutions tend to be based on a feeling that we’re not good enough, that we need to stop making bad choices and that if only we could be thinner, or drink less, or break the social media addiction then our life would be perfect and we would be happy. Read more…