When your head is full of thoughts. When you’re worried or scared. When you’re tired and just can’t be bothered any more. When you’re tense. When you’re in pain. When you’re so overwhelmed that you think you’re just going to go into melt-down. When burnout feels around the corner.
It can feel impossible to know what to do.
But there is something you can always do to help yourself. To reconnect back to yourself. To self-soothe. To come back from the brink.
I know because I’ve experienced all of these myself. The tension, overwhelm, exhaustion and whizzing mind.
They still sometimes creep up on me, but now I know what to do to stop them in their tracks and recover my equilibrium.
I take these 3 simple but powerful steps. Give them a try and see how they work for you. Read more…
When you’re sensitive to your surroundings and other people and you feel easily overwhelmed by too much stimulation and information, life can feel both challenging yet also soulfully rewarding.
Tiredness, overwhelm and feeling scattered and discombobulated may be feelings you know all too well. You crave withdrawal from this frantic world.
You’re also conscientious, observant, intuitive and empathetic to others’ feelings. You think about things deeply, you deeply feel the beauty of our natural surroundings and can easily be profoundly moved by music, art and acts of kindness.
You’re tuned into life around you. You have a delicate appreciation of the subtleties of life.
You may feel anxious, kind, connected, different from everyone else, aware, soulful, confused…
In short, you experience life intensely and sometimes it feels like a blessing and other times like a curse.
I know all this because this is how I experience the world. And if, like me, you’re Highly Sensitive (and if you’re not sure then take this short test) then you’ve probably felt all of these feelings, and more. Read more…
December. Full of joy and sparkling lights. Full of cold bugs, coldness and darkness. Every coin has two sides eh?
How are you feeling?
Me, I work up earlier than usual this morning. It was still completely dark. I wasn’t feeling full of joy, to put it mildly (more to do with being day 26 of my cycle than anything else: I know from charting my monthly cycle all through this year that days 25/6 are often the days my inner critic gets LOUD).
But I still took myself to my meditation cushion and sat and allowed whatever was coming up, to come up. It wasn’t particularly pretty. But, with mindful awareness I offered kindness towards myself and to what I was feeling.
I began my usual practice – focusing on the cool-in breath at the nostrils and the warmer out-breath. I gradually took my awareness down through my body to ground.
Feeling grumpy, I continued to breathe. Read more…
Where are you living? No, I don’t mean which town, or whether you’re in a house or apartment.
I mean, what space do you occupy? Do you live in your mind or do you inhabit your body?
It’s a good question to ask yourself because in our busy lives it can be all too easy just to occupy the top two inches of our body and live in the mind.
And when we live in our minds we’re rarely present. We over-analyse the past and fret about the future. We’re at the mercy of the to-do list in our heads. We lose perspective. We might fly off the handle at the merest provocation. We daydream, disappearing into our thoughts.
Occupying the mental plane of existence disconnects us from our body. Our breath becomes shallow and our muscles get tense and tight. We ignore our body’s needs to or even stop noticing them at all. Read more…
Do you sometimes not try something because you’ve already told yourself you can’t do it?
“I can’t relax because I’m too tense”, “I can’t stand up in front of a group to speak because I’m not confident enough”, “I can’t join a yoga class because everyone will think I’m bad at it” “I can’t meditate because my mind’s too busy”.
Yes, my mind does that too!
And it happened again last Saturday at my Dru Meditation Teacher Training. Read more…
Happy New Year! The year has turned again and here you are at the start of 2016.
Are you feeling the calling to turn a new leaf? To make resolutions? To stop doing this; to change that; to be more this; to do less of the other?
It’s natural to feel this at the start of a year.
However, most New Year’s resolutions tend to be based on a feeling that we’re not good enough, that we need to stop making bad choices and that if only we could be thinner, or drink less, or break the social media addiction then our life would be perfect and we would be happy. Read more…