Category Archives: Soul food

Wise words and inspiration to nurture your soul.

Soul food: Be like water

Soul food:

Nothing is softer or more flexible than water, yet nothing can resist it ~ Lao Tzu

In a culture which values competition and confrontation it can be easy to feel to feel not good enough if, like me, your instinct is to be more sensitive and kind and softer.

So take strength from water. Water ALWAYS finds its way yet it seems to weak and yielding.

Turn your back on competition and be like water – let your life flow, keep going, know that in your sensitivity and kindness lie your greatest strengths.

Let yourself be like water and know you WILL always find your way.

Flow like water

Calm contentment: a manifesto!

Sweet Pea: smell the flowers for some calm contentment
Slow down and smell the flowers

Why oh why does our culture glorify busy-ness so much? We’re supposed to struggle, to push through our comfort zones, to do, to achieve, to climb the ladder. Blah, blah, blimmin’ blah. Whatevs. We’re not meant to want to relax in calm contentment.

Well do you know what? I can’t be bothered. It all sounds way too overwhelming and tiring for me, sensitive soul that I am.

I’m not lazy. I work hard – and yes, I find myself pushing too (and wind up exhausted when I do).

So I’m standing up for slowness. For gentleness. For kindness. For sensitivity. For time to relax and notice the simple pleasures in life. Read more…

Soul Food: Troubles

I have known a great many troubles in my life – but most of them never happened ~ Mark Twain Soul food:

“I have known a great many troubles in my life – but most of them never happened” ~ Mark Twain

I love these words! They are SO true.
How many of our troubles are mind-made?!

The mind loves to worry, to fret, to prepare for the worst, to catastrophize, to dramatize – it’s all part of the body-mind’s deep-seated survival instinct.

But we don’t have to be at the mercy of our worries. We can learn to choose whether the troubles need our attention or are mind-made.

With mindfulness we learn discernment – the ability to judge well.

So practise checking in with your thoughts daily and ask “Is this real? Or is it my fearful mind trying to trick me?”

And if it’s your fears talking, smile gently to yourself and tell your mind “Thank you, I know you’re just trying to look out for me, but I don’t need to listen to this today”.

And breathe. Let it go or let it be.

Soul food: The Quiet Mind

To the quiet mind all things are possibleSoul food:

“To the quiet mind all things are possible” ~ Meister Eckhart

How does it feel when your mind is racing? When the monkey mind is jumping from one thing to the other? When you’re ruminating on the past or catastrophising about the future?

Chances are there isn’t much space for exploration there. There is pressure and stress and a whirlwind of worry. Read more…

Soul food: Be tender, be strong

There is nothing stronger in the world than tendernessSoul food:

“There is nothing stronger in the world than tenderness” ~ Han Suyin

Tenderness, sensitivity, kindliness, gentleness. It’s not particularly prized by our society. It’s seen as weak.

But I believe allowing yourself to feel – to be kind, gentle and sensitive – is *incredibly* strong.

Being tender is about letting the feelings in and letting them be known to you and sitting with them or letting them through. Read more…

Yoga for uncertain times

Stormy weather ahead
Stormy weather ahead!

One word, one date. Brexit, 24 June 2016. And a whole world of fear, anger, frustration, and incomprehension opens (…insert your feelings here!).

I’m still feeling shock, anger and fear from the UK EU Referendum result and the follow-on effects of the disarray at Westminster – the back-biting, back-stabbing and vacuum of power.

And I can tangibly sense the disbelief, worry, confusion, rage and fear that has spread through the UK (and beyond).

We’re living in uncertain times – wherever you are in the world. Read more…

My attempt to make sense of today’s UK EU Referendum result

I choose compassionAt 7am today I heard the news: the UK had voted to leave the European Union.

I felt sick. I felt shaky. I couldn’t quite believe it (although, sadly, part of me could believe it all too readily).

These last few hours I’ve felt all sorts.  A lot of anger – at the lies which had been told during the campaign and anger at people for believing them. I’ve called that 52% of the British public who voted leave stupid, narrow-minded and bigoted. I’ve asked my husband where shall we emigrate to, because I don’t want to live in this narrow-minded country anymore.

It’s been quite an emotional morning! I’ve felt sick, angry, ashamed and very judgmental.

But you know what? I don’t want to feel this way.

It’s always in our power to decide which thoughts to follow.

So I decided I wanted to try and understand what’s going on. Read more…

Less fear, more love: reflections on the UK’s EU referendum

Less fear more love{Politics alert!}

Today I’m feeling sad, disappointed, worried and, yes, scared.

The tone of the debate in the UK’s EU Referendum is nasty. It’s ugly. Both sides are scare-mongering.

Those with the highest profile on the leave side (the Brexiteers) are encouraging fear and hatred and scape-goating of immigrants – of fellow human beings who’s only “crime” is to have been born outside the UK.

It seems hatred, scape-goating and small-minded nationalism is on the rise across the UK. History shows us what that can lead to. Read more…

I’ve finally done it!

“Most [wo]men lead lives of quiet desperation and go to the grave with their song still in them” ~ Henry David Thoreau

Here's my excited face
Excited to finally be walking on MY path

I don’t want to be one of those people.

So, I’ve taken the leap. I’ve done what I’ve long been dreaming of. I’m taking control of my life and my destiny.

I’m going to sing MY song.

I’ve handed in my notice at work to leave my part-time job in one month’s time.

I’m devoting my life to play my small part in helping to relieve the suffering of stress and anxiety through calming yoga, relaxation and meditation.

I have a calling. It’s always been there. To do something useful. To make a difference. To help others. To empower others that there is a different way in life. To write. To create. To get up on stage somehow. To inspire.

To let as many people know as possible that life doesn’t have to be struggle and difficulty and stress and self-loathing and quiet desperation. That we are free despite the mass manipulation by of our governments and media and culture with their twisted messages of fear and self-loathing and hatred of others.

But first I had to make my own journey from that dark place to a different one.

To a place of joy and self-acceptance and permission to do what lights me up. Of lightness. Of simplicity. To a place of self-belief. Read more…

Do YOU have time to stand and stare?

Flowers, trees and sky - some of my favourite things
Some of my favourite things – pics I recently took at Mottisfont

Do you remember when you were little and you’d spend, what felt like hours, lying on the grass and staring at the sky?

Watching the clouds form and change and pass? Watching, with fascination, the colours behind your closed eye lids as the sun shone on your face?

Ah, those innocent pleasures of childhood.  And the time to enjoy them without question or guilt.

How often do you allow yourself time just to stand and stare now? Read more…