Category Archives: Find your calm space

Relax, and learn to let things be and let things go. Find the calm space deep within you where all is well.

A note for yoga beginners

Stella Tomlinson Yoga Teacher - a note for yoga beginnersThinking of starting *yoga*? Or do you know someone who’s thinking about starting yoga? Then there’s something all yoga beginners should know…

I feel I should point out that not all yoga is the same! There are many styles of yoga and every teacher has their own approach.

So, I’ll be honest and up front. If you’re looking to sweat and to push yourself; to feel the burn; to feel like you’ve had a good workout from yoga then I am NOT the teacher for you.

If words like “soul”, “spirit” & “energy” make you wince, then my friend, look elsewhere because these words frequently come out of my mouth in class.

If you’re happy to keep a tight lid on your emotions and don’t want to open that particular can of worms, then … well you get the picture. My classes ain’t for you!

However, if you’d love to practise flowing, gentle, calming, releasing, transforming yoga in a friendly, non-competitive, stress-free environment where you come away feeling at peace, then I think I offer the classes you’ve been looking for.

If you’re ready to go on a journey of self-discovery to reconnect to your body; acknowledge your emotions; and nurture your soul then let me welcome you with open arms.

If you’re open to inviting self-acceptance as well as the willingness to change and release what no longer is serving you; if you’d like to work with intentions so you can create the life you yearn for; if you would love to connect to the inner guidance of the wisdom of your soul, then I would love to walk beside you on this journey to wholeness.

How? Discover my soulful, calming, transforming Dru Yoga & Meditation classes and workshops in Southampton and Eastleigh.

Feeling low? 4 simple ways to lift your mood

Lift your mood if you're having a grey day
We all sometimes have grey days when we feel low and lacking in energy

We all have those days – when everything feels too much of an effort and everything you try seems to go wrong. Feeling tired and lacking in energy. Your mood is heavy.

Sometimes its stuff going on in our lives which gets on top of us – work pressures, family angst, health concerns.

Or it may be hormonal, part of the ebbs and flows of the feminine and lunar cycle.

Other times these low moods seem to descend for no apparent reason… though it’s common at this time of the year as we shift from summer expansive energy into the withdrawal of autumn.

It’s important to be honest with how you’re feeling and not try to bottle up emotions or deny them or push them under or, worse still, berate yourself for feeling this way.

But also know that you can take control of how you feel – you don’t have to be at the mercy of your shifting emotional inner landscape.

Here are my own personal tried-and-tested methods for lifting a low mood: Read more…

Mindfulness & the senses

ship-harbour-boat drop anchor to calm your senses
Drop your anchor into calmer waters

Drop anchor into the sea of now through mindfulness and the senses.

Busy mind. Tired body. Feeling unfocused and sometimes overwhelmed. Sound familiar?

Our busy lifestyles and overstimulating environment mean that we’re always on the go and there’s always something to do – there’s precious little time just to slow down and be.

There’s a saying oft used in yoga: Where your attention goes your energy flows.

If your attention is flitting around all over the place between past, present & future; getting lost in the past; fretting about the future; or judging and wanting to change what’s going on now,  then your energy is going to feel diffuse and scattered – no wonder you’re tired and feeling confused!

But you don’t have to feel lost and out of control.

I’d like to remind you that we all have five things which are always available to us to bring us home; to drop anchor into the sea of now.

Our senses. Read more…

Tough love on self-care

Relaxation time - cute dog
Sit and stare and just rest

When was the last time you did nothing? 

Rested? Pondered over a cup of tea? Stared out of the window to watch the clouds? Stood and listened to birdsong? Went for a walk with no aim in particular – just for the love of it? Sat and let your feelings come and go with no judgement?

Recently? Not in ages? Never?!

If this isn’t something you regularly do, I’m not judging you! I know how difficult it can feel to pack into your days all the activities you need and want to do – let alone finding time to do nothing!

But … this do-nothing-in-particular time is actually really important.

And the fact it is usually overlooked and not allowed in our lives is contributing to the high levels of stress and anxiety as well as fatigue and niggly illnesses in modern life.

Why? Because rest is essential to bring our bodies and minds back into balance.

It brings our bodies out of the stress response which modern-day life puts us into, and into the relaxation response where our body can rest, digest and heal. Rest balances the nervous system and soothes the mind. Read more…

3 yoga tips to stay calm this Christmas

Stay calm at Christmas with yoga
Stay calm this Christmas

How do you find the festive season? It can be enchanting. But it can also feel overwhelming.

If you tend to experience anxiety anyway, then you’ll know that there’s something about Christmas-time which can really aggravate and intensify the symptoms.

There’s nothing like an impending, immoveable deadline and yet-to-be-done Christmas shopping to get the stress hormones flooding your system!

And if (like me) you have a nervous system which is highly sensitive to external stimuli you’re more likely to experience the symptoms of anxiety.

And this time of year there are so many stimuli bombarding us: bright lights; crazy-busy towns, cities and shopping centres; parties and “dos” to go to; sugary & fatty foods; alcohol; Christmas shopping; the pressure to visit as many family members as possible; and jingly-jangly Christmas music everywhere!!! Read more…

Rest is Best

Busy bee - time to rest with yoga
Are you a busy bee?

Busy, busy, busy. Are you addicted to busy? Out here, there and everywhere? Do you ever allow yourself time to rest?

Or, maybe it’s an internalised feeling of busy that you can’t stop, you can’t slow down. A feeling of over-stimulation from all the thoughts and feelings and images and memories and plans.

That’s the busy that gets me. Take my sensitive easily aroused nervous system taking everything  in from my environment and processing it all, and add to it all the thinking and feeling and, blimey, do I need some quiet-time!

Trouble is that quiet-time can become another opportunity for your mind to work on the to-do list can’t it?

So, what’s the answer?

Well, do you know what? I think I’ve found it!

Rest. Read more…

5 little words which may change your life

Mindful or Mind-Full?Ah, the human mind. It’s such a powerful tool.

But it does love to flit around and judge.  Wanting this, not wanting that. Pulling and pushing. Attachment and aversion.

All too often never quite satisfied with what we have here and now.

It’s all rather tiring isn’t it?

The mind pulls us out of this moment and stops us enjoying the people we are with, or the quiet-time we’re allowing ourselves, or the simple pleasures of sights and sounds around us which can bring us joy and enrich our lives. Read more…

Step on the path to peace with meditation

Zen frog: learn to meditate in Eastleigh, HampshireHead space. Clarity. Connection. Me-time away from the busy world (both real and online).

Tapping into a deep well of inner peace, content, strength and joy that is always there within me. Connecting to and awakening the radiant soul within me.

These are some of the reasons I meditate daily.

Sound inviting?  Would you like some peace, clarity and calm in your life too?

Then it’s time to learn to meditate. Read more…

Two tips to help you learn to relax

Sunshine appearing from behind clouds
Let the sunshine appear in your mind

Ah, to be able to relax and let the world drift by.

To be able to switch off the tension and anxious thoughts and focus on the here and now.

To connect to inner peace no matter what the world sends your way, and remain connected to that sense of inner peace…

Perhaps you find yourself wishing you could feel this way but that inner peace feels an elusive dream?

Let me assure you dear one, that it IS possible. It is possible to relax at will. It is possible to let go of the whirlpool of thoughts whizzing around your mind.

It just takes awareness and practice. Read more…

What are YOUR symptoms of relaxation?

Relaxation in Southampton and Eastleigh: learn to relax like this sleepy kitty!
This sleepy one certainly knows how to relax!

Do you know how you feel when you relax?

This is a good question to ask yourself!  Without having to ponder it, do you truly know the answer?

So often we focus on the negative sensations we experience in the body – symptoms of stress or anxiety, symptoms of a health condition, or symptoms of something we don’t know the cause of.

That’s because these symptoms are pretty good at and making themselves known. Headaches, back pain, joint discomfort, digestive problems, insomnia, stiffness… They’re hard to ignore!

And, it’s perfectly natural to notice discomfort and pain – it’s our body telling us something needs attending to. Read more…