4 steps to less stress and more peace

Steps to less stress and more peaceDo you ever feel at the mercy of the stress-filled myriad of thoughts rushing through your mind?

There’s so much stuff rambling around your brain it tires you out! You can’t seem to find an off-switch – but desperately wish you could…

You’d love to feel more peaceful, more positive and more present in your life, so you can enjoy simple pleasures and time with family and friends without that constant feeling of fretting and foreboding which all too easily overshadows your daily life.

Yes? Well, all these things I’ve mentioned above have been my experience too – you’re not alone! The vast majority of my yoga & meditation students come to me because they want to quieten their busy minds.

And if, like me, you’re highly sensitive, then you feel it all more intensely and your inner landscape can often feel unsafe and overwhelming. Read more…

Life in the slow lane: why I’m standing up for slowness!

Stella Tomlinson Yoga and meditation Southampton, Hampshire“Oh she’s got so much energy!” “Ooh I don’t know how she does it all!” “Gosh, I wish I had her energy!”

How many times have you said that or heard that and felt a pang of envy or a kick of inadequacy in comparison?

I know I have.

Some people seem to pack their lives full of activities and achievements. They have a hundred plates spinning at any given time. They are popular and always smiling. Their home is immaculate.

“Oh crap, I wish I was like that… Why do I feel like I need a nap some afternoons? Am I wasting time watching the birds or pootling in the garden or curling up to read?”

It’s all too easy to let that thought into your mind and it festers and you get stuck in comparisonitis.

I’ve been there – can easily still go there.

But then I take a moment to reflect.

Why do we glorify being busy?

Why is appearing to have so much energy and be doing all the things something we envy?

I have a different perspective on this I’d like to share… Read more…

Look within

Meditation in Hampshire: meditate to look within for peaceWhere do you look for wisdom and solace and guidance?

These wise words can give us a hint as to the best place to look:

“Who looks outside dreams. Who looks inside awakens” ~ Carl Jung

Everything in our culture encourages us to look outside ourselves for answers and validation.

It starts at school and as we grow up and throughout adulthood we’re conditioned to look to “experts” to tell us what’s going on inside ourselves; we’re told to buy buy buy all sorts of stuff to make ourselves feel happy; we’re taught that material possessions and career advancement are indicators of our worth. Read more…

What’s your true nature?

Meditation teacher Stella crown of light 400pxI thought these words timely for the start of a new calendar year – especially with so many marketing messages screaming “New Year, New You” at you!

“The aim of life is self-development. To realise one’s nature perfectly – that is what each of us is here for” ~ Oscar Wilde

I agree, that the aim of life is self-development.

But it’s not about fixing you because you’re broken.

The old you from last year is perfectly fine.

For me, this speaks to what is at the heart of the yogic approach to ourselves. Read more…

New Year Meditation: use the power of your intention

Power of intentionHappy New Year!  I hope that you and yours had a good Christmas and New Year.

If it was in any way tinged with stress or sadness or frustration then I send you much love … and hope and joy for the new year ahead.

So, to mark this transition from the old year into the new I have created this guided meditation focusing on the power of intention.

I’ll guide you through releasing the old year, opening to the new, and help you choose a word for the year to act as your focus and guide to create the life you’d love – with intention.

Never under-estimate the power of focusing your mind and intention.

“If you don’t know what you want, you end up with a lot you don’t” ~ Chuck Palahniuk

SO true. Read more…

Listen to your heart

Rose Quartz HeartWhich rules within you? Your head or your heart? 

It’s a tricky one.

Do we make choices based on logic, analysis and perceived knowledge, or make them based on inner guidance which often arises as a strong feeling in the body – and may defy logic?

I used to just live in my head, but it was a fretful space to occupy … so now I make it my daily spiritual practice to tune into my heart, because:

“Your heart knows the way. Run in that direction” ~ Rumi

These words really go to the heart of why I teach and share what I do!

When you settle the body and quieten your mind you will find that you begin to hear a quiet voice whispering to you – the voice of inner wisdom.

Whether you feel its your heart, your soul, your intuition or the voice of god/dess talking to you – we *all* have access to this inner guidance. Read more…

Stress and the Body: the importance of attachment

Brain networks: the stress connection in health and disease{Guest post by Patricia Worby, PhD, Trauma Therapist who is teaching The Stress Connection in Health and Disease event with me on 17 March 2018.}

Humans are creatures of attachment. It overrides even the desire for life. This is biologically important so that we can be taken care of.

A human child especially is vulnerable to loss of attachment because they are born almost entirely helpless and need attachment to survive; our brains are very immature.

The quality of that attachment is significant for further brain development outside the womb and is something that actually changes the brain of the child when it is withheld; a developmental stage is often not completed properly, with the emotional brain (limbic system in the centre of the brain) failing to develop with a sense of safety at its core.
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A note for yoga beginners

Stella Tomlinson Yoga Teacher - a note for yoga beginnersThinking of starting *yoga*? Or do you know someone who’s thinking about starting yoga? Then there’s something all yoga beginners should know…

I feel I should point out that not all yoga is the same! There are many styles of yoga and every teacher has their own approach.

So, I’ll be honest and up front. If you’re looking to sweat and to push yourself; to feel the burn; to feel like you’ve had a good workout from yoga then I am NOT the teacher for you.

If words like “soul”, “spirit” & “energy” make you wince, then my friend, look elsewhere because these words frequently come out of my mouth in class.

If you’re happy to keep a tight lid on your emotions and don’t want to open that particular can of worms, then … well you get the picture. My classes ain’t for you!

However, if you’d love to practise flowing, gentle, calming, releasing, transforming yoga in a friendly, non-competitive, stress-free environment where you come away feeling at peace, then I think I offer the classes you’ve been looking for.

If you’re ready to go on a journey of self-discovery to reconnect to your body; acknowledge your emotions; and nurture your soul then let me welcome you with open arms.

If you’re open to inviting self-acceptance as well as the willingness to change and release what no longer is serving you; if you’d like to work with intentions so you can create the life you yearn for; if you would love to connect to the inner guidance of the wisdom of your soul, then I would love to walk beside you on this journey to wholeness.

How? Discover my soulful, calming, transforming Dru Yoga & Meditation classes and workshops in Southampton and Eastleigh.

Sensitive to seasonal changes? Try this

Fellow highly sensitives… you might well be feeling a bit odd and off-kilter this week – what with the change in season and the full moon yesterday!

I know that, as much as I love it, in early autumn I can feel a bit discombobulated – happy and joyful one minute, bone-tired the next…

If you’re feeling it too then, like me, you’ll benefit from daily GROUNDING – to feel rooted, safe and still.

Try this – it only takes a few minutes. Read more…