The power of stillness

Stillness and sunlight and trees: find inner peace with meditation, EastleighCan you remember the last time you felt totally still? Totally present? Connected to the person or scene in front of you and not analysing, judging or worrying about it but just being open to whatever you were experiencing with a grounded sense of stillness?

We can sometimes experience this deep sense of stillness when captivated by a beautifully radiant sunset; or a scene unfolding before us in nature; or when we’re enjoying time with friends and loved ones.

But, let’s be honest, these moments tend to be few and far between because as soon as we stop and connect to something which transcends our every day lives then what happens? The mind kicks in and starts its usual running commentary and – bang – we’re kicked out of the stillness of that moment and we’re back into analysing, comparing, judging, wishing and resisting. Read more…

It’s OK to feel

Yoga and meditation teacher Stella Tomlinson, Dru yoga in Southampton and EastleighIt’s OK to feel angry.

It’s OK to feel fearful or confused or full of doubt.

It’s OK to feel irritated and frustrated.

It’s OK to feel joyful or deeply content.

It’s OK to feel happy or cheerful.

It’s OK to feel baffled or bewildered or bemused.

It’s OK to feel the depths of despair and the dizzy heights of bliss.

It’s all OK.

It’s OK to FEEL.

Experiencing emotions is part of being human. Read more…

Open to joy

Sun Shining with joy - Yoga in Southampton and EastleighHarness the power of your mind to feel more positive, present and peaceful with this affirmation to breathe in joy:

“I am filled with abundant life and energy”

Close your eyes and imagine golden sunlight, vitality and Prana (life force) flowing over you and through the crown of your head into every cell of your body.

Feel the warmth … See each organ, muscle, bone & sinew, and each cell within you glowing with life and energy and a sense of joy.

If you’re not feeling too well, imagine this energy bringing healing to your body and mind.

Repeat out loud, or silently: I am filled with abundant life and energy.

Breathe deeply – breathe in life and energy, breathe out toxins and tension.

Choose to feel alive and vibrant and joyful!

…Because it is a choice. Read more…

3 mindful steps to relieve anxiety & stress

A mindful life: channel peace with yoga, mindfulness and meditationBusy mind. Tired body. Feeling unfocused and sometimes overwhelmed. Sound familiar? Approach life in a mindful way to be here now and feel more at peace.

Our busy lifestyles and overstimulating environment mean that we’re always on the go and there’s always something to do – there’s precious little time just to slow down and be.

There’s a saying often used in yoga: Where your attention goes your energy flows.

If your attention is flitting around all over the place between past, present & future; getting lost in the past; fretting about the future; or judging and wanting to change what’s going on now,  then your energy is going to feel diffuse and scattered – no wonder you’re tired and feeling confused!

But you don’t have to feel lost and out of control. There is something you can always do to help yourself. To reconnect back to yourself. To self-soothe. To come back from the brink.

I know because I’ve experienced all of these myself. The tension, overwhelm, exhaustion and whizzing mind.

They still sometimes creep up on me, but now I know what to do to stop them in their tracks and recover my equilibrium.

I take these 3 simple but powerful steps. Give them a try and see how they work for you. Read more…

4 steps to less stress and more peace

Steps to less stress and more peaceDo you ever feel at the mercy of the stress-filled myriad of thoughts rushing through your mind?

There’s so much stuff rambling around your brain it tires you out! You can’t seem to find an off-switch – but desperately wish you could…

You’d love to feel more peaceful, more positive and more present in your life, so you can enjoy simple pleasures and time with family and friends without that constant feeling of fretting and foreboding which all too easily overshadows your daily life.

Yes? Well, all these things I’ve mentioned above have been my experience too – you’re not alone! The vast majority of my yoga & meditation students come to me because they want to quieten their busy minds.

And if, like me, you’re highly sensitive, then you feel it all more intensely and your inner landscape can often feel unsafe and overwhelming. Read more…

Life in the slow lane: why I’m standing up for slowness!

Stella Tomlinson Yoga and meditation Southampton, Hampshire“Oh she’s got so much energy!” “Ooh I don’t know how she does it all!” “Gosh, I wish I had her energy!”

How many times have you said that or heard that and felt a pang of envy or a kick of inadequacy in comparison?

I know I have.

Some people seem to pack their lives full of activities and achievements. They have a hundred plates spinning at any given time. They are popular and always smiling. Their home is immaculate.

“Oh crap, I wish I was like that… Why do I feel like I need a nap some afternoons? Am I wasting time watching the birds or pootling in the garden or curling up to read?”

It’s all too easy to let that thought into your mind and it festers and you get stuck in comparisonitis.

I’ve been there – can easily still go there.

But then I take a moment to reflect.

Why do we glorify being busy?

Why is appearing to have so much energy and be doing all the things something we envy?

I have a different perspective on this I’d like to share… Read more…

Look within

Meditation in Hampshire: meditate to look within for peaceWhere do you look for wisdom and solace and guidance?

These wise words can give us a hint as to the best place to look:

“Who looks outside dreams. Who looks inside awakens” ~ Carl Jung

Everything in our culture encourages us to look outside ourselves for answers and validation.

It starts at school and as we grow up and throughout adulthood we’re conditioned to look to “experts” to tell us what’s going on inside ourselves; we’re told to buy buy buy all sorts of stuff to make ourselves feel happy; we’re taught that material possessions and career advancement are indicators of our worth. Read more…

What’s your true nature?

Meditation teacher Stella crown of light 400pxI thought these words timely for the start of a new calendar year – especially with so many marketing messages screaming “New Year, New You” at you!

“The aim of life is self-development. To realise one’s nature perfectly – that is what each of us is here for” ~ Oscar Wilde

I agree, that the aim of life is self-development.

But it’s not about fixing you because you’re broken.

The old you from last year is perfectly fine.

For me, this speaks to what is at the heart of the yogic approach to ourselves. Read more…

New Year Meditation: use the power of your intention

Power of intentionHappy New Year!  I hope that you and yours had a good Christmas and New Year.

If it was in any way tinged with stress or sadness or frustration then I send you much love … and hope and joy for the new year ahead.

So, to mark this transition from the old year into the new I have created this guided meditation focusing on the power of intention.

I’ll guide you through releasing the old year, opening to the new, and help you choose a word for the year to act as your focus and guide to create the life you’d love – with intention.

Never under-estimate the power of focusing your mind and intention.

“If you don’t know what you want, you end up with a lot you don’t” ~ Chuck Palahniuk

SO true. Read more…