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My book is out now!

Peace Lies Within - the bookSo… today’s the day! The day I dreamed of, imagined and planned for…

My first book, Peaces Lies Within is officially published today!

My book baby has arrived! 

I’ve written it for those of you who, liked I used to, feel at the mercy of your mind. 

There is so much stress and pressure in modern life. I feel it too. A lot of it seems to come from external pressure to do, become, achieve, grow in a seemingly never-ending onslaught of demands on your time and attention. And we live in challenging times with upheavals in the political, social, economic and technological status quo.

And the truth is … this is never going to change.

Often these pressures feel so much more stressful because of how we react to them and the stories and dramas and fears and exaggerations created by our complex oh-so-human minds.

But this is also true: the only aspect of life we CAN change and manage is what goes on within us – in our minds, hearts and souls.

Peace Lies Within shares with you 108 ways to tame your mind and connect to your body, heart and soul to feel more positive, present and peaceful. 

With this book I wish to inspire you to become present; to shift your perspective to let go of limiting beliefs; find emotional balance; accept and care for yourself, and look within. So you can rediscover the inner peace, which is your birth right, together with contentment and radiance and joy, so you can live from this place eternally.

It feels so exciting and amazing to finally be sharing my first book with the world … and a bit scary too! It feels quite vulnerable to be putting out my thoughts and suggestions on how we can bring more peace into our lives.

But any feelings of fear are outweighed by the feelings of love I have for you and my fellow humanity … and those of us who are open, ready and willing to take responsibility for our lives and minds and choose to do the inner work in order to feel more content within ourselves and to spread peace through our worlds through our thoughts, words and deeds.

Here’s where you can buy the book!

It’s available as a print book or an ebook.

Want to know more about the book? Read on … and watch these videos.

More about the book

Each section contains inspirations, insights, actions and practices.

Some are very down to earth and practical; some are tools; some are perspectives; some are poetic and inspiring.

Over my years of practice and teaching, I have concluded there are six steps to taming the mind and connecting to inner peace.

See them as six keys to unlock the peace that lies within:

Get out of your head: I offer you practices and perspectives to enable you to feel more grounded; to get out of your head and into your body. To bring you out of the past, and back from the future, into the here and now. These are the foundations of taming your mind to connect to inner peace.

Breathe here now: with this section, I share simple, effective and powerful techniques and perspectives to help you to harness the power of your breath; to tame your mind and your body’s stress response; to feel more in control, settled and calm.

Make friends with your emotions: next, I share perspectives and practices to empower you to change your relationship with your emotional landscape; to make friends with your emotions so you can feel more peaceful, aware and balanced.

Shift your perspective: here I’m sharing guidance and practices that aim to shift your way of thinking. To empower you to realise that you are not at the mercy of events, challenges, other people; or your mind.

Open your heart: in this section, I offer you guidance and tools to open your heart and to be kinder to yourself. To soften and open and allow. Your emotional and spiritual heart is your inner wellspring of peace.

Create connection: and finally, I aim to empower you to bring a sense of connection back into your life through simple actions and perspective shifts; to create a renewed sense of meaning in your life; to strengthen the connections you already have, and to put peace into action.

Each passage ends with a ‘Mind Taming Peace Mantra’ – summing up the piece in a sentence. A sentence you can take as a mantra — a chosen thought — and repeat to yourself, write on post-it notes, or meditate on it to help you to tame your mind and feel more peaceful.

And you also get access to eight specially-recorded guided practices and meditations, which accompany the book.

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Peace Lies Within is the first book by my friend Stella Tomlinson, and with it she aims to help you to find a greater sense of inner peace which so often feels elusive when we’re at the mercy of the thoughts racing around our mind.

‘Peace Lies Within’ offers you another way to live. Ways to tame that busy, fretful mind so you can feel less stressed and more resilient, centered and calm.

It contains 108 practices, insights and inspirations to enable you to: soothe your stress response using mindful body and breath techniques; feel balanced and calm by making friends with your emotions and mind; tune into the energy of your heart and soul to create meaningful connection.

You can find out more about it here:

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Descending – a poem for late autumn

Samhain altar
My Samhain (late October/November) altar

As we move into this darkest phase of the year here in the northern hemisphere, it can sometimes feel challenging.

You might grieve the loss of the sunny days of summer.

You might find that your energy levels are all over the place.

You may resist the darkness and wish to escape.

But the darkness is part of the cycle of life.

So, dear one, I invite you: don’t be afraid of the darkness.

As we move into this darkest phase of the year, I invite you to embrace the opportunity to slow down and look within.

Let what needs to die and fall away do just that.

Release. Exhale.

Embrace the darkness and let it nourish your soul.

I wrote these words at Samhain last year. I hope they help you to embrace the gifts that late autumn and early winter can offer.


No words, just feeling.
Drawing in, releasing.

Going inwards, a natural calling.
Moving into the dark: the quiet womb of winter.

Looking with.
This is the time for dreams – no need for action.

Just being.

Descending into the cave of my heart.
Laying myself down to rest til the light is returning.

Continue reading Descending – a poem for late autumn

Why I’m angry (and what I’m doing about it)

I often feel incredibly peaceful … yet sometimes I feel unsettlingly angry. 

And I’ve been reflecting on these feelings, the sense of disconnection that so many people feel in so many ways (which I’ve certainly felt myself), and also I’ve been thinking about  why I do what I do as a teacher and writer. Here’s the result of my reflections. I hope this inspires you…

My ‘why’

Stella Tomlinson meditation and yoga: living in rhythm

After much soul-searching I’ve come to realize that my soul’s calling is to guide and inspire sensitive, soulful people like you and me to connect to inner peace by learning to live in rhythm with the flow of life, in alignment with our needs as high sensitives.


Because I’ve come to believe (and feel in my bones) that the epidemic of stress, anxiety and depression in Western cultures – which I have experienced myself – is due to a profound sense of disconnection.

Disconnection from our bodies; disconnection from the natural rhythms, energies and ebbs and flows of circadian rhythms, the menstrual cycle, the lunar cycle and the cycles and seasons of the year.

Disconnection from the joy of simple, sustainable living in accordance with nature.

Disconnection from our heart and soul – firmly lodging us in our head and our fretful mind, at the mercy of our over-stimulated nervous system.

All this disconnection is a path to burnout and ill health … via stress, anxiety and depression.

Do you feel it too? Read more…

The hidden costs of stress

Are you aware of the hidden costs of stress?

I’ve recently read a fascinating book by Gabor Mate called “When The Body Says No” about this very topic.

Steps to less stress and more peaceIn it he looks at the effect of the mind-body link on illness and health and the role that stress and one’s individual emotional makeup play in an array of common diseases.

Based on scientific evidence he shows how suppressed thoughts and emotions contribute to a range of chronic health conditions such as IBS and inflammatory bowel conditions, fibromyalgia, and arthritis as well as serious illnesses including cancer, Alzheimers and motor neurone disease.

Suppressed emotions and thoughts stress the body, and this chronic stress causes inflammation and suppresses the immune system – both major contributing factors in illness and dis-ease.

The books is quite the wake up call! To wake you up to allowing yourself to feel strong emotions and process them – rather then denying them and pushing them under. Read more…

High sensitivity is a gift not a disorder

Highly Sensitive - sensing the subtle
HSPs: we can sense the subtle

Here are a few phrases which make my heart break a little when I hear them said about the trait of high sensitivity:

“I was diagnosed as highly sensitive a few months ago.”

“Yes, I have the condition too.”

“I try to manage my high sensitivity.”

I feel like crying out “no, NO, NOOOOO!!!!” whenever I hear words like this. And then enveloping the speaker in a big hug.

Why? Because it’s a sign that the person has internalized the idea that being “sensitive” means there’s something wrong with them.

And there’s not.

There really isn’t. Read more…

Choose gratitude

Bring gratitude into your life, for consciously choosing to feel grateful is a powerful practice.

Let your heart fill with gratitude

Now, I know that life can be challenging and that your health might not be what you’d like it to be. Perhaps family or colleagues are causing you grief. Maybe you’re experiencing low self-esteem and find it difficult to be grateful for yourself, or you’re worried about what’s going on in the world and what the future holds.

Practising gratitude isn’t about denying the challenges and difficulties you may be experiencing.

It’s about choosing to feel grateful for the good you DO have in your life.

It’s easy to get stuck in what we think we lack, or to become overwhelmed by the injustices in this world. In that headspace, you’re likely to feel heavy and low in energy and defeated.

I don’t believe you were born to live life in this way. You were born into a human body with a mind and senses and consciousness to embrace life.

Embracing gratitude and thankfulness for what you do have in your life lifts the spirit and raises your vibration. Read more…

The power of stillness

Stillness and sunlight and trees: find inner peace with meditation, EastleighCan you remember the last time you felt totally still? Totally present? Connected to the person or scene in front of you and not analysing, judging or worrying about it but just being open to whatever you were experiencing with a grounded sense of stillness?

We can sometimes experience this deep sense of stillness when captivated by a beautifully radiant sunset; or a scene unfolding before us in nature; or when we’re enjoying time with friends and loved ones.

But, let’s be honest, these moments tend to be few and far between because as soon as we stop and connect to something which transcends our every day lives then what happens? The mind kicks in and starts its usual running commentary and – bang – we’re kicked out of the stillness of that moment and we’re back into analysing, comparing, judging, wishing and resisting. Read more…

It’s OK to feel

Yoga and meditation teacher Stella Tomlinson, Dru yoga in Southampton and EastleighIt’s OK to feel angry.

It’s OK to feel fearful or confused or full of doubt.

It’s OK to feel irritated and frustrated.

It’s OK to feel joyful or deeply content.

It’s OK to feel happy or cheerful.

It’s OK to feel baffled or bewildered or bemused.

It’s OK to feel the depths of despair and the dizzy heights of bliss.

It’s all OK.

It’s OK to FEEL.

Experiencing emotions is part of being human. Read more…

Open to joy

Sun Shining with joy - Yoga in Southampton and EastleighHarness the power of your mind to feel more positive, present and peaceful with this affirmation to breathe in joy:

“I am filled with abundant life and energy”

Close your eyes and imagine golden sunlight, vitality and Prana (life force) flowing over you and through the crown of your head into every cell of your body.

Feel the warmth … See each organ, muscle, bone & sinew, and each cell within you glowing with life and energy and a sense of joy.

If you’re not feeling too well, imagine this energy bringing healing to your body and mind.

Repeat out loud, or silently: I am filled with abundant life and energy.

Breathe deeply – breathe in life and energy, breathe out toxins and tension.

Choose to feel alive and vibrant and joyful!

…Because it is a choice. Read more…

3 mindful steps to relieve anxiety & stress

A mindful life: channel peace with yoga, mindfulness and meditationBusy mind. Tired body. Feeling unfocused and sometimes overwhelmed. Sound familiar? Approach life in a mindful way to be here now and feel more at peace.

Our busy lifestyles and overstimulating environment mean that we’re always on the go and there’s always something to do – there’s precious little time just to slow down and be.

There’s a saying often used in yoga: Where your attention goes your energy flows.

If your attention is flitting around all over the place between past, present & future; getting lost in the past; fretting about the future; or judging and wanting to change what’s going on now,  then your energy is going to feel diffuse and scattered – no wonder you’re tired and feeling confused!

But you don’t have to feel lost and out of control. There is something you can always do to help yourself. To reconnect back to yourself. To self-soothe. To come back from the brink.

I know because I’ve experienced all of these myself. The tension, overwhelm, exhaustion and whizzing mind.

They still sometimes creep up on me, but now I know what to do to stop them in their tracks and recover my equilibrium.

I take these 3 simple but powerful steps. Give them a try and see how they work for you. Read more…