All posts by Stella Tomlinson

Listen to your heart

Rose Quartz HeartWhich rules within you? Your head or your heart? 

It’s a tricky one.

Do we make choices based on logic, analysis and perceived knowledge, or make them based on inner guidance which often arises as a strong feeling in the body – and may defy logic?

I used to just live in my head, but it was a fretful space to occupy … so now I make it my daily spiritual practice to tune into my heart, because:

“Your heart knows the way. Run in that direction” ~ Rumi

These words really go to the heart of why I teach and share what I do!

When you settle the body and quieten your mind you will find that you begin to hear a quiet voice whispering to you – the voice of inner wisdom.

Whether you feel its your heart, your soul, your intuition or the voice of god/dess talking to you – we *all* have access to this inner guidance. Read more…

Stress and the Body: the importance of attachment

Brain networks: the stress connection in health and disease{Guest post by Patricia Worby, PhD, Trauma Therapist who is teaching The Stress Connection in Health and Disease event with me on 11 November.}

Humans are creatures of attachment. It overrides even the desire for life. This is biologically important so that we can be taken care of.

A human child especially is vulnerable to loss of attachment because they are born almost entirely helpless and need attachment to survive; our brains are very immature.

The quality of that attachment is significant for further brain development outside the womb and is something that actually changes the brain of the child when it is withheld; a developmental stage is often not completed properly, with the emotional brain (limbic system in the centre of the brain) failing to develop with a sense of safety at its core.
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A note for yoga beginners

Stella Tomlinson Yoga Teacher - a note for yoga beginnersThinking of starting *yoga*? Or do you know someone who’s thinking about starting yoga? Then there’s something all yoga beginners should know…

I feel I should point out that not all yoga is the same! There are many styles of yoga and every teacher has their own approach.

So, I’ll be honest and up front. If you’re looking to sweat and to push yourself; to feel the burn; to feel like you’ve had a good workout from yoga then I am NOT the teacher for you.

If words like “soul”, “spirit” & “energy” make you wince, then my friend, look elsewhere because these words frequently come out of my mouth in class.

If you’re happy to keep a tight lid on your emotions and don’t want to open that particular can of worms, then … well you get the picture. My classes ain’t for you!

However, if you’d love to practise flowing, gentle, calming, releasing, transforming yoga in a friendly, non-competitive, stress-free environment where you come away feeling at peace, then I think I offer the classes you’ve been looking for.

If you’re ready to go on a journey of self-discovery to reconnect to your body; acknowledge your emotions; and nurture your soul then let me welcome you with open arms.

If you’re open to inviting self-acceptance as well as the willingness to change and release what no longer is serving you; if you’d like to work with intentions so you can create the life you yearn for; if you would love to connect to the inner guidance of the wisdom of your soul, then I would love to walk beside you on this journey to wholeness.

How? Discover my soulful, calming, transforming Dru Yoga & Meditation classes and workshops in Southampton and Eastleigh.

Sensitive to seasonal changes? Try this

Fellow highly sensitives… you might well be feeling a bit odd and off-kilter this week – what with the change in season and the full moon yesterday!

I know that, as much as I love it, in early autumn I can feel a bit discombobulated – happy and joyful one minute, bone-tired the next…

If you’re feeling it too then, like me, you’ll benefit from daily GROUNDING – to feel rooted, safe and still.

Try this – it only takes a few minutes. Read more…

Feeling low? 4 simple ways to lift your mood

Lift your mood if you're having a grey day
We all sometimes have grey days when we feel low and lacking in energy

We all have those days – when everything feels too much of an effort and everything you try seems to go wrong. Feeling tired and lacking in energy. Your mood is heavy.

Sometimes its stuff going on in our lives which gets on top of us – work pressures, family angst, health concerns.

Or it may be hormonal, part of the ebbs and flows of the feminine and lunar cycle.

Other times these low moods seem to descend for no apparent reason… though it’s common at this time of the year as we shift from summer expansive energy into the withdrawal of autumn.

It’s important to be honest with how you’re feeling and not try to bottle up emotions or deny them or push them under or, worse still, berate yourself for feeling this way.

But also know that you can take control of how you feel – you don’t have to be at the mercy of your shifting emotional inner landscape.

Here are my own personal tried-and-tested methods for lifting a low mood: Read more…

A prayer for inner peace

Chalice Well Gardens, Glastonbury, a place to find inner peace
The magical Chalice Well, Glastonbury

Do you have a special place? Where you straight away feel connected to inner peace? Perhaps it’s somewhere close by, or a place in your heart.

One such place for me is the Chalice Well Gardens, Glastonbury.

I went again recently – my second visit to Glastonbury this year and I know it will be a place I keep returning to!

The Chalice Well gardens are a beautiful sanctuary of peace – have you been there?

Every time I go there (three times just in this latest visit!) I receive so much guidance and clarity. It truly is a magical place.

So, I’d love to share with you a simple vision, a prayer for inner peace and connection which came to me, fully formed, as I sat with the late-summer sun shining down on me in the Chalice Well Gardens recently. Read more…

Essential oils & the power of intention

Mindfulness with doterra essential oilsI’d love to share with you a really powerful way to boost your wellbeing: the power of intention alongside essential oils.

Essential oils  – these gifts of the earth – have powerful properties to manage your moods, to support better sleep, digestion and immune function on their own. But if you team them up with the power of your mind, then you have got a forceful power in your hands for becoming the healthiest, happiest most radiant version of you!

Intrigued?

Then let me just step back and share a few things… Read more…

Retrain your brain with a mantra

Monkey mind: use a mantra instead
What message is your chattering monkey mind giving you?

Do you have a little voice in your head giving you a running commentary on everything you do, say, think or feel? A negative mantra that you keep repeating?

I reckon that the answer is “yes”.

Because we all do.

We all have a voice in our head running a commentary on ourselves, our lives and other people.

An inner critic judging what we do or say, replaying situations over and over again looking at what we “should” have said or done, analysing every waking moment and action we take or fretting over what we think we should do or ruminating over what might happen.

But instead of being at the mercy of your noisy mind, wouldn’t it be great if you could consciously change the words your mind’s inner voice uses? Read more…

How grounded are you?

Are you grounded, or floating like a balloon?
Are you grounded, or floating like a balloon?

How grounded are you? How easily do you feel knocked off balance by the ups and downs of life?

If your answers are along the lines of “not very” and “easily” then you need to develop your roots!

And if, like me, you’re highly sensitive you’re going to be picking up on everyone else’s energy and their ups and downs, which, added to your own can lead to storms of emotions up-rooting you on a daily basis {…ah I love a good tree metaphor}.

But what do I mean by grounded?

It’s as simple as feeling your bum on the chair seat and your feet on the ground.

Feeling present. Noticing the sounds around you; the temperature of the air on your skin; the quality of light.

Really being with and listening to the person in front of you.

It’s being HERE, now. Read more…

Feeling disconnected & confused? Try this

Disconnected wires: reconnect to yourself through meditationDo you ever get that  feeling? When you kind of feel disconnected from yourself?

A weird sense of discombobulation where clarity feels a long way away and you can’t make the simplest decision. Thoughts and options churn around in your mind and you end up feeling totally confused.

I do.

I just did!

I was trying to think about what to write for this week’s blog.

And I felt blocked.

I had one idea, then another. Then a kind of fuzzy resistance and churning thoughts of “Oh I don’t know. Who reads this blog anyway? I’m running out of time this morning. What should I do? Should I write about something to promote an upcoming event or just write from the heart?”.

{That last question answered itself by the way. When I catch myself coming from a place of “should” v coming from the heart … well, the heart always wins!} Read more…